Thursday, April 03, 2008

Through a Rapist's Eyes

CG, one of my blog readers, sent this information to me. It is useful, so please read on.
> *This is important information for females of ALL ages.
> *When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends,
> but I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book.
> My men friends have female friends and this information is too important to miss someone.
> **
> **Please pass it along**
> *A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they
> look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
> *1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They
> are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other
> hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a
> woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
> *2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
> whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around
> specifically to cut clothing.
> *3) They also look for women on their cell phone,searching through their
> purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard
> and can be easily overpowered.
> *4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00
> a.m. and 8:30 a.m.**
> *5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store
> parking lots . Number two: Are office parking lots/garages. Number three:
> Are public restrooms.
> *6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and
> quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about
> getting caught. **
> *7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
> sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
> *8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because
> it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't
> worth it because it will be time-consuming.
> *9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other
> similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
> *Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the
> attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys
> you're not worth it.
> *10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following
> behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
> stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is
> it, or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,'
> 'we're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify
> them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
> *11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you
> and yell STOP or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd
> leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to
> fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
> *12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it
> and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding
> it out will be a deterrent.
> *13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you
> can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from
> behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit)
> OR in the upper innerthigh VERY VERY HARD.
> One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch
> on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through
> the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try
> pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts **.
> *14)** After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN**.** I know from a
> particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is
> extremely painful . You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him
> want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is
> that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing
> trouble and he's out of there. **
> *15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and
> bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them
> as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I
> ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
> *16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of
> your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and **if you see any odd
> behavior,** **don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!
> *You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the
> guy really was trouble.
> *
> *1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If
> you are close enough to use it, do!
> *2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber asks for
> your wallet and/or purse,** DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM**. Toss it away from
> you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse
> than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. **RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER
> *3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail
> lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The
> driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
> *4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating,
> working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.)
> **DON'T DO THIS!** The predator will be watching you, and this is the
> perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to
> your head, and tell you where to go. ** AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR,
> *a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF,
> repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything,
> wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back
> seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and
> run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.
> *5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:
> *A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side
> floor, and in the back seat.
> *B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger
> door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their
> vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
> *C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the
> passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you
> may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to
> walk you back out.
> *IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
> *6.** ALWAYS** take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are
> horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially
> true at NIGHT!)
> *7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, **ALWAYS
> RUN!** The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times.
> And even then, it most likely **WILL NOT** be a vital organ.** RUN,
> preferably in a zigzag pattern!
> *8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: **STOP!** It may get
> you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking,
> well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting
> women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his
> vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
> *9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a
> crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police
> because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her
> **'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'
> *The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window,
> and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The
> policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT
> open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry
> recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone
> dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several
> calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when
> they're home alone at night.
> *Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----This
> **should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on
> America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial
> killer in Louisiana.
> *I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life.
> A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this
> to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters,
> daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well. *